Monday, March 4, 2019

My biggest regret: I told a guy my Goals...


Hey guys!

Reading the title of this blog post might have left you feeling confused. So from the sound of it I told a guy I was speaking to my goals and I am still having regrets about it but why?
First of all, I believe that whoever you're talking to, your goals are personal milestones and you should keep them to yourself till you get there. This is not me just saying it but it has also been scientifically proven that if you keep your goals to yourself that you're more likely to succeed in them. If you want to know more about this scientific research and the explanation follow this post that I found online which was a very interesting read and it all makes sense to me.

I am not going to mention who, what, where or when this conversation had happened but I wish it didn't happen. My goals are always on my mind and in that moment it felt right to bring it up when I spoke to the person because it came up in conversation. It's important to me to share my goals to a person that I see my future with because I want them to understand the importance of it all to me and I would love to be having the sort of bond where we would work through our goals together. However, this was different. It wasn't a boyfriend or anyone I saw my future with, it was someone I was speaking to with no specific outcome in mind.
Just the thought of someone walking around knowing my ultimate goals freaks me out, maybe it's because it means that  I've trusted such a big part of me to someone or because I am worried that I may not achieve them the same way anymore and that a person knows about them. Either way I'm wondering now do you think goals should be shared? How soon would you tell someone you've met/speaking to about your goals? When is it too soon to tell someone your goals or is there no such thing? Maybe it's because it means so much to me that it has such importance but I would love to know what you guys think about your goals and whom and when they should be shared to.

Let me know in the comments below or on my social media!




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  1. I can understand where you’re coming from. I don’t know if you’ve been through this, but if I was going on holiday or doing something related to my goals, my parents always told me not to tell anyone incase it’s jinxed. I thought it was silly at first but sadly we live in a world where people gossip about everything you do. People tend to have their own expectations, and if they know about our goals and it’s not up to their expected standards, they start to spread rumours, degrade our abilities etc. It’s not wrong to share goals with people, it depends on how much you trust someone at the end of the day. If you feel positive vibes around someone and they also open up to you about their goals, then it’d be easier to share your goals with them. But never give everything away, it’s best to keep some of your goals to yourself.

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    1. I definitely agree with you here, I believe in jinxing things for sure because when I have told someone about something I am really looking forward to e.g. an event, a holiday it does end up going very wrong for me. Maybe it's because I am now superstitious and more concerned about it, but it does happen. I don't believe in not sharing your ways with others once you made it, I want people to progress and grow with me and that is my purpose as a blogger, but I do regret telling that guy specifically my goals prior to achieving them.

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