Monday, March 4, 2019

My biggest regret: I told a guy my Goals...

Hey guys!

Reading the title of this blog post might have left you feeling confused. So from the sound of it I told a guy I was speaking to my goals and I am still having regrets about it but why?
First of all, I believe that whoever you're talking to, your goals are personal milestones and you should keep them to yourself till you get there. This is not me just saying it but it has also been scientifically proven that if you keep your goals to yourself that you're more likely to succeed in them. If you want to know more about this scientific research and the explanation follow this post that I found online which was a very interesting read and it all makes sense to me.

I am not going to mention who, what, where or when this conversation had happened but I wish it didn't happen. My goals are always on my mind and in that moment it felt right to bring it up when I spoke to the person because it came up in conversation. It's important to me to share my goals to a person that I see my future with because I want them to understand the importance of it all to me and I would love to be having the sort of bond where we would work through our goals together. However, this was different. It wasn't a boyfriend or anyone I saw my future with, it was someone I was speaking to with no specific outcome in mind.
Just the thought of someone walking around knowing my ultimate goals freaks me out, maybe it's because it means that  I've trusted such a big part of me to someone or because I am worried that I may not achieve them the same way anymore and that a person knows about them. Either way I'm wondering now do you think goals should be shared? How soon would you tell someone you've met/speaking to about your goals? When is it too soon to tell someone your goals or is there no such thing? Maybe it's because it means so much to me that it has such importance but I would love to know what you guys think about your goals and whom and when they should be shared to.

Let me know in the comments below or on my social media!


Sunday, March 3, 2019

How Strangers became Friends whilst Traveling!

Hey guys!

If there's one thing that's changed majorly in the way I travel - it's my confidence. Not only with streets and surroundings but also people. I am not scared to go up to someone to ask for directions. I remember the first time I took my mum to Paris I was too shy to approach a stranger to ask for directions. These days, I have full on conversations with strangers. It doesn't come easily and you develop it over time but taking more and more adventures.

Travelling solo to Lisbon in Portugal was the final straw to creating this confidence. People had approached me in the Hostel there and they were super kind. We talked about things and gave each other suggestions. I wouldn't say I am very naive, in fact I am quite the opposite. I am very cautious and take some time before I can trust a stranger. You should never fully trust a stranger. In Lisbon I gave my number out the first time ever to the people I had met and traveled with. It was the thought of "it's just my number, what can they do with it if I'm abroad". You aren't obliged to stay in touch with them forever but if you do like their friendship you can stay friends because why not? We meet cultures, integrate ourselves with them and learn daily.

Be open to conversation, don't reveal too much about yourself, don't do anything you wouldn't even do in your hometown. I always think to myself first "Would I do that in London?". If someone you just met an hour ago says "come let's chill at my house". I am definitely not the type to say yes to that offer in any country! Always stay in public places, go do cool things and explore with them and make life long friends!

Confidence is key! Don't be naive!


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