Friday, December 28, 2018

Are The People In Our Lives ALL Temporary?

June 2015 - after you guys read this post I would like to add that this friendship I would be heartbroken about if it was to ever end! 

Hey guys,

this is probably going to be my last post of 2018 and an accurate representation of how I am feeling at the end of this year. I have been having many thoughts lately but I reckon it comes with me slowly entering and getting deeper and deeper into my 20s. I would really like to know if I am the only one feeling/having thoughts like this or what your thoughts on this topic are as I already know it is going to vary. So please at the end of this post, I would love it if you could take the time to leave a comment and let me know your thoughts! :)

2018 has been the year of my personality growth. It has been a year where I have had lots and lots of people around me yet felt like there is nobody ultimately understands me.  One thing that I am definitely aware of that I value friendships a lot and that more than most people so when I don't see people responding to scenarios the same way I do it does tend to leave me confused. I am used to giving but not receiving the same back in return in that sense, but that is probably I put too much energy and thought into friendships - not because the person isn't doing enough. I feel though that this is what makes me the person I am and I shouldn't give that up just because people aren't the same way.

So now having explained what I am like in any sort of relationship - friendship - family bonds etc. I am wondering are the people in our lives all temporary? There are the different scenarios:

TEMPORARY FRIENDS - the friends that you meet at the different stages of your life - school, university. Somehow it results in being called "drifting apart" because you don't see each other everyday anymore and that's the only reason why you aren't friends anymore.
 That leaves me with the thought - I mean if I know this friendship is not going to exist in 5 years time shall I just walk away now or would that leave me as the rude person? I don't like to waste my time nor energy but neither do I like to be on bad terms with anybody.

LOVE  - Before I start this line, I would like to clarify I am not a bitter single and I am happy for everyone around me that has found love. For me, I am still enjoying doing things on my own and I want to enjoy this state for a bit longer and nobody has swayed me from that point just yet.
I'd say 80% of my friends are actively dating or in a relationship and it is becoming apparent to me that to some people friends are part of their lifestyle but that is all it is. If their friends walked away from the friendship it is okay because they still have their partner, no active effort will be made to "save" the friendship.

Having that said as a disclaimer I can not tell how I will be in a relationship myself but I would ideally not be so affected by whatever this thing called "love" does to people haha.

CHILDHOOD FRIENDS - these are the friends you basically learnt how to write/walk/swim with. The friendship that has lasted 15 years. As you get older you still call each other friends but your lives just have no correlation anymore and you hardly know each other. Are you still allowed to call that being friends? When you see each other it feels great but rather a session of recollection of the past rather than new memories being made together.

So I would like to end this post with a few questions and it would be great to know what you guys think. Are people temporary? Are they just part of our overall growth as a person but they will leave at some point? Do I put too much thought into friendships? Does it sound like I am expecting to be "entitled to someone's time" because I am expecting the same sort of energy or input back from people? If I have already got bad intuitions about people, and it is affecting my vibes - do I walk away already or wait for the so called "drifting away"?
Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!



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