Friday, December 28, 2018

Are The People In Our Lives ALL Temporary?

June 2015 - after you guys read this post I would like to add that this friendship I would be heartbroken about if it was to ever end! 

Hey guys,

this is probably going to be my last post of 2018 and an accurate representation of how I am feeling at the end of this year. I have been having many thoughts lately but I reckon it comes with me slowly entering and getting deeper and deeper into my 20s. I would really like to know if I am the only one feeling/having thoughts like this or what your thoughts on this topic are as I already know it is going to vary. So please at the end of this post, I would love it if you could take the time to leave a comment and let me know your thoughts! :)

2018 has been the year of my personality growth. It has been a year where I have had lots and lots of people around me yet felt like there is nobody ultimately understands me.  One thing that I am definitely aware of that I value friendships a lot and that more than most people so when I don't see people responding to scenarios the same way I do it does tend to leave me confused. I am used to giving but not receiving the same back in return in that sense, but that is probably I put too much energy and thought into friendships - not because the person isn't doing enough. I feel though that this is what makes me the person I am and I shouldn't give that up just because people aren't the same way.

So now having explained what I am like in any sort of relationship - friendship - family bonds etc. I am wondering are the people in our lives all temporary? There are the different scenarios:

TEMPORARY FRIENDS - the friends that you meet at the different stages of your life - school, university. Somehow it results in being called "drifting apart" because you don't see each other everyday anymore and that's the only reason why you aren't friends anymore.
 That leaves me with the thought - I mean if I know this friendship is not going to exist in 5 years time shall I just walk away now or would that leave me as the rude person? I don't like to waste my time nor energy but neither do I like to be on bad terms with anybody.

LOVE  - Before I start this line, I would like to clarify I am not a bitter single and I am happy for everyone around me that has found love. For me, I am still enjoying doing things on my own and I want to enjoy this state for a bit longer and nobody has swayed me from that point just yet.
I'd say 80% of my friends are actively dating or in a relationship and it is becoming apparent to me that to some people friends are part of their lifestyle but that is all it is. If their friends walked away from the friendship it is okay because they still have their partner, no active effort will be made to "save" the friendship.

Having that said as a disclaimer I can not tell how I will be in a relationship myself but I would ideally not be so affected by whatever this thing called "love" does to people haha.

CHILDHOOD FRIENDS - these are the friends you basically learnt how to write/walk/swim with. The friendship that has lasted 15 years. As you get older you still call each other friends but your lives just have no correlation anymore and you hardly know each other. Are you still allowed to call that being friends? When you see each other it feels great but rather a session of recollection of the past rather than new memories being made together.

So I would like to end this post with a few questions and it would be great to know what you guys think. Are people temporary? Are they just part of our overall growth as a person but they will leave at some point? Do I put too much thought into friendships? Does it sound like I am expecting to be "entitled to someone's time" because I am expecting the same sort of energy or input back from people? If I have already got bad intuitions about people, and it is affecting my vibes - do I walk away already or wait for the so called "drifting away"?
Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!


Wednesday, December 19, 2018

The Ideal Friend of an Entrepreneur

Hi guys,

I deeply believe in your mindset and mood is determined by what you feed your brain and we do this on a daily basis in the most subtle ways and we may not even realise. The things we see on our social media, the people we are surrounded and their attitude toward things.

When people start a business, music career or a journey of their own entrepreneurship the true colours of most friendships tend to show. The vibes I receive from my friends toward my blogging work does definitely help me in positive ways. I've cut those that don't help me grow as a person out one by one. 

You can support an entrepreneur in many ways - by following their work, by sharing their content via social media or even referring people to the work. Content creators and business owners go through a tremendous amount of hours of work to the point up to them publishing or releasing their work and having friends that do this could mean this to them more than anything else you could do for them. I am sure that I am not talking for myself here but for the community of entrepreneurs. 

The people that entrepreneurs favour the least, are the type of "friends" that only come out to congratulate you when you are doing well and are joining your moment whilst it lasts. Or people who are only willing to work with you once you are making a positive progress and turn around and say "I knew you'll make it" but didn't actually support you in the process. You'll hear them say "congrats my girl", "that's my boy we went to school together" making sure it is clear that you are friends. Whilst this is very sweet and also appreciated, it is way more appreciated when these friends are there when you are working up to this point in your life by doing the smallest favours. This may be in my case saying things like "oh why don't you take a picture of that for your blog" or "shall I share your song".
I believe not all friends are aware of this and that's why I wanted to shed some light to this. It is in no way meant to be shady but more of a suggestion to all of you out there who may have entrepreneur friends and would like to really support them but don't know how to. And on this note I'd like to also add a warm thank you to all my friends that are continuing to support me.  


Thursday, December 6, 2018

Florence + The Machine VIP Lounge Experience| Do a bit of Debenhams

Hey guys!

Two weeks ago I was invited to the Florence + The Machine concert by the Debenhams team! I was thrilled to attend this event because not only did I need a break from my student life but I was really looking forward to connect with other bloggers from the UK! It has been such a long time since I have had met fellow bloggers.
I haven't attended a concert in such a long time and Debenhams had a VIP lounge booth booked at the O2 Arena which I experienced for the first time as well! We were spoiled with drinks and food all night whilst listening to Florence + The Machine whose live voice is amazing by the way!
I knew some of Florence + The Machine's songs prior to the concert but not all and I was so happy to have attended the event, I felt like I got to know more about her in such little time.

Debenhams also sorted me out with an amazing outfit which I fell in love with. I also picked an amazing outfit from Debenhams which I fell in love with. The Quiz jumpsuit was the perfect fit and just gave me the classy elegant I was looking for and I also got stunning Steven Madden heels from Debenhams as well.
What really shocked me was how perfect the fit of these outfits was! I received the outfit the day before the event and I was a bit worried what if it wasn't the right size and I wouldn't have had enough time to return any items or go to a Debenhams store nearby but I fell in love with the outfits I received straight away! The fitting and outfit sizing guidelines were perfect. I never really ordered outfits from Debenhams before, I always thought that they didn't have outfits appropriate for my age range but they actually did! The Debenhams bodycon dresses have such a wide variety.

On that note, I'm off to bed it's getting late and I have to resume to my student life tomorrow. Having said that, I have just confirmed my first blogger event attendance for 2019 already so it definitely doesn't end here.

That's it from me for now lovelies, I'll be back with more soon.


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