Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Why I unfollowed people on social media after High School!


Morning guys!

Whenever I meet someone from high school, they're surprised, shocked and confused when they realise how much I have changed. Let me picture an image of myself back in 2013 to you guys. I was the quiet one in school. Not the one that nobody knows but the one that hides in their friends' shadow. From reading through my diary I can tell you I was depressed without even realising that I was. I seemed pretty normal to the outside world and I was but there was a lot going on in my brain. In high school, you automatically fall into a group. It's going to stay that way. I was never anybody's top option, when choosing sports teams? Yeah I was the kid who got chosen as one of the last people onto a team.

If you meet me now, you'd describe me as confident, happy, bubbly and motivated. I see the positive in everything now. I wasn't any of those things back in 2013. I didn't just fall over one day and hit my head on a stone and magically became a new person. It was a time consuming process but only because I didn't know what to do to get out of that dark place. I want to make sure that if you are feeling like you could relate to me in the slightest way that you know how to get out of that dark place in your mind.

The first thing I did after leaving high school was - believe it or not this is what helped the most - I unfollowed everyone but my close friends on social media. I kept those who I needed in my life. Don't get me wrong, if I unfollowed you it's not because there is anything wrong with you but it's because I most likely looked at your life on Instagram and envied you. I wanted to be pretty like you, popular like you or to be liked by everyone like you. The moment you stop comparing yourself to others is when you become happy. Back then the number of likes and looking at who liked my pictures mattered so much to me. Right now? Let me tell you that I've turned my Instagram notifications off. I wouldn't even notice if you liked my picture or if you haven't. Those things don't matter to me anymore because I realised there's more to life than that.

Do you know what I have realised now? Those popular kids I looked up to and compared myself to? Their lives were nowhere near perfect, they had problems too. Don't let social media deceive you into anything. If you're still in school and feel the way I used to feel - I promise you it gets so much better!! The real world is amazing. Focus on yourself and do the things you love. The people who didn't speak to me back then, speak to me now, but I no longer need them in my life. Just smile, be nice and just slay!! Don't be like them, don't be the bully.

Stop looking at others! I don't follow any celebrities on social media - only Shay Mitchell. She's perfect aha I do need some sort of inspiration.

My weight loss after high school? Once I stopped comparing I focused on myself, things I wanted for myself. At university I started blogging and vlogging more than ever. I found new friends, I joined a sports team, I embraced myself.

Embrace yourself and you'll get far! I can't even tell you how much doing these things has helped me to be positive and satisfied with myself.

Scroll down for some pictures of me in high school...I'm telling you I'm a different person now it's visible!

                                                                                                          

Year 11 Yearbook

Final year Prom 2015







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