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Friday, December 28, 2018

Are The People In Our Lives ALL Temporary?



June 2015 - after you guys read this post I would like to add that this friendship I would be heartbroken about if it was to ever end! 


Hey guys,

this is probably going to be my last post of 2018 and an accurate representation of how I am feeling at the end of this year. I have been having many thoughts lately but I reckon it comes with me slowly entering and getting deeper and deeper into my 20s. I would really like to know if I am the only one feeling/having thoughts like this or what your thoughts on this topic are as I already know it is going to vary. So please at the end of this post, I would love it if you could take the time to leave a comment and let me know your thoughts! :)

2018 has been the year of my personality growth. It has been a year where I have had lots and lots of people around me yet felt like there is nobody ultimately understands me.  One thing that I am definitely aware of that I value friendships a lot and that more than most people so when I don't see people responding to scenarios the same way I do it does tend to leave me confused. I am used to giving but not receiving the same back in return in that sense, but that is probably I put too much energy and thought into friendships - not because the person isn't doing enough. I feel though that this is what makes me the person I am and I shouldn't give that up just because people aren't the same way.

So now having explained what I am like in any sort of relationship - friendship - family bonds etc. I am wondering are the people in our lives all temporary? There are the different scenarios:

TEMPORARY FRIENDS - the friends that you meet at the different stages of your life - school, university. Somehow it results in being called "drifting apart" because you don't see each other everyday anymore and that's the only reason why you aren't friends anymore.
 That leaves me with the thought - I mean if I know this friendship is not going to exist in 5 years time shall I just walk away now or would that leave me as the rude person? I don't like to waste my time nor energy but neither do I like to be on bad terms with anybody.

LOVE  - Before I start this line, I would like to clarify I am not a bitter single and I am happy for everyone around me that has found love. For me, I am still enjoying doing things on my own and I want to enjoy this state for a bit longer and nobody has swayed me from that point just yet.
I'd say 80% of my friends are actively dating or in a relationship and it is becoming apparent to me that to some people friends are part of their lifestyle but that is all it is. If their friends walked away from the friendship it is okay because they still have their partner, no active effort will be made to "save" the friendship.

Having that said as a disclaimer I can not tell how I will be in a relationship myself but I would ideally not be so affected by whatever this thing called "love" does to people haha.

CHILDHOOD FRIENDS - these are the friends you basically learnt how to write/walk/swim with. The friendship that has lasted 15 years. As you get older you still call each other friends but your lives just have no correlation anymore and you hardly know each other. Are you still allowed to call that being friends? When you see each other it feels great but rather a session of recollection of the past rather than new memories being made together.

So I would like to end this post with a few questions and it would be great to know what you guys think. Are people temporary? Are they just part of our overall growth as a person but they will leave at some point? Do I put too much thought into friendships? Does it sound like I am expecting to be "entitled to someone's time" because I am expecting the same sort of energy or input back from people? If I have already got bad intuitions about people, and it is affecting my vibes - do I walk away already or wait for the so called "drifting away"?
Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!


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Wednesday, December 19, 2018

The Ideal Friend of an Entrepreneur


Hi guys,

I deeply believe in your mindset and mood is determined by what you feed your brain and we do this on a daily basis in the most subtle ways and we may not even realise. The things we see on our social media, the people we are surrounded and their attitude toward things.

When people start a business, music career or a journey of their own entrepreneurship the true colours of most friendships tend to show. The vibes I receive from my friends toward my blogging work does definitely help me in positive ways. I've cut those that don't help me grow as a person out one by one. 

You can support an entrepreneur in many ways - by following their work, by sharing their content via social media or even referring people to the work. Content creators and business owners go through a tremendous amount of hours of work to the point up to them publishing or releasing their work and having friends that do this could mean this to them more than anything else you could do for them. I am sure that I am not talking for myself here but for the community of entrepreneurs. 

The people that entrepreneurs favour the least, are the type of "friends" that only come out to congratulate you when you are doing well and are joining your moment whilst it lasts. Or people who are only willing to work with you once you are making a positive progress and turn around and say "I knew you'll make it" but didn't actually support you in the process. You'll hear them say "congrats my girl", "that's my boy we went to school together" making sure it is clear that you are friends. Whilst this is very sweet and also appreciated, it is way more appreciated when these friends are there when you are working up to this point in your life by doing the smallest favours. This may be in my case saying things like "oh why don't you take a picture of that for your blog" or "shall I share your song".
I believe not all friends are aware of this and that's why I wanted to shed some light to this. It is in no way meant to be shady but more of a suggestion to all of you out there who may have entrepreneur friends and would like to really support them but don't know how to. And on this note I'd like to also add a warm thank you to all my friends that are continuing to support me.  


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Thursday, December 6, 2018

Florence + The Machine VIP Lounge Experience| Do a bit of Debenhams

Hey guys!

Two weeks ago I was invited to the Florence + The Machine concert by the Debenhams team! I was thrilled to attend this event because not only did I need a break from my student life but I was really looking forward to connect with other bloggers from the UK! It has been such a long time since I have had met fellow bloggers.
I haven't attended a concert in such a long time and Debenhams had a VIP lounge booth booked at the O2 Arena which I experienced for the first time as well! We were spoiled with drinks and food all night whilst listening to Florence + The Machine whose live voice is amazing by the way!
I knew some of Florence + The Machine's songs prior to the concert but not all and I was so happy to have attended the event, I felt like I got to know more about her in such little time.

Debenhams also sorted me out with an amazing outfit which I fell in love with. I also picked an amazing outfit from Debenhams which I fell in love with. The Quiz jumpsuit was the perfect fit and just gave me the classy elegant I was looking for and I also got stunning Steven Madden heels from Debenhams as well.
What really shocked me was how perfect the fit of these outfits was! I received the outfit the day before the event and I was a bit worried what if it wasn't the right size and I wouldn't have had enough time to return any items or go to a Debenhams store nearby but I fell in love with the outfits I received straight away! The fitting and outfit sizing guidelines were perfect. I never really ordered outfits from Debenhams before, I always thought that they didn't have outfits appropriate for my age range but they actually did! The Debenhams bodycon dresses have such a wide variety.

On that note, I'm off to bed it's getting late and I have to resume to my student life tomorrow. Having said that, I have just confirmed my first blogger event attendance for 2019 already so it definitely doesn't end here.

That's it from me for now lovelies, I'll be back with more soon.













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Sunday, November 25, 2018

7 Signs That You're Burning Out | Mental Health



Hello guys,

We live in a society where working hard and grinding is promoted so positively which is definitely a good thing and I do agree that it's important to set your goals at high importance. However, there is a fine line between a healthy mindset and the goals overwhelming you and overworking yourself to cause a burn out.
Lately I've been feeling like I've hit a point in my life where I've completely burnt out and have no energy whatsoever left to get back out of it. Usually, this is not like me at all, I have always had a lot on my plate but I manage to get back up after resting for a day. At this point I am counting down the days left till the end of term because I know the only way for me to gather my energy again is to take a few days rest and the calendar is already so full that I can't find those days. Anyhow, I don't want anyone to miss the signs like me and get to this point of burning out so here are the early signs you should look out for...

1. It takes you less than 5 minutes to fall asleep
Do you come home, get ready for bed and you don't even have to try, you shut your eyes and you're out! While taking long to fall asleep is a sign of insomnia, falling asleep too quickly isn't healthy either.

2. Mental Fatigue
You sleep enough but you mentally just don't feel with it. Constantly feeling weak and tired.

3. Always zoning out
Are you surrounded by a crowd but you find yourself always zoning out and thinking about the work related things you still have to do?

4. Struggling to look after yourself
You have no motivation to cook, eat and are more likely to fall into eating habits are not your usual self. Simple chores start to feel difficult and start piling up.

5. Working through a list
You're working through a list rather than wanting to get it done.

6. Immune System - getting ill frequently
Is your immune system giving up on you and you keep getting ill?

7. Isolation
You don't feel like socialising with anybody and you start to detach yourself from everyone.

These are just some of the signs and don't avoid them, do something about it before you're in my situation!



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Saturday, September 29, 2018

How I saved £3k to Travel Europe while being a Student!










Hello guys,
 I went to university with the intention to travel as much as I can but I had no savings put aside for travelling. In my first 2 years at university I managed to travel while saving money for it simultaneously. The main cities I went to were Iceland, Mallorca, Tenerife, Brussels, Copenhagen, Malmo, Amsterdam. I also went on various other small city trips with my family etc. that I funded for myself.
So how did I save this money?

Say no to restaurant trips
I remember being really social in my first year at university and I was part of many societies. I would go to them weekly but whenever there was a social which involved going out and eating I wouldn't attend. Same goes for restaurant trips with friends, I avoided them. I'd say that will easily give you about minimum £200 of saved money.

Avoid going home
If you live out, this will be one of your major spendings depending on how far away your home is from the city you live in for uni. Each trip costs me on average £25 minimum so if you were to go home every week that's £100 per month that you're saving.

Get a part time job
I only worked during my half term holidays but it was enough, depending on where you work of course. I was really fortunate with this but depending on how much effort you put into searching you can find some pretty good jobs out there. Or you could get a job at university, most uni jobs take into consideration that you're a student and give you reasonable hours.

Calculate a Weekly Budget
Based on your weekly requirements and costs calculate how much money you need minimum a week to survive. Once you have that amount, add an amount of money you'd like to save and from that obtain a reasonable weekly budget that works for you - which isn't too strict and reasonable so you're less likely to give up. I'm currently on a £30 a week budget and if I stick to it I will be able to save the money that I have calculated to keep.

Plan your journeys
Don't just go to town/high street/city to get the one or two things you need to buy. Make a list and get it all at once, you save time and bus fare money.

Pre-drink enough

If you drink alcohol and want to enjoy yourself on a night out - I'm not saying no to it. Go for it!
But - make sure you pre-drink enough that you won't have to go beyond spending £10 at the club.

Take advantage of your student life
As a student believe it or not you have an unbelievable amount of time, if you're able to work - do it!
You don't have to be super strict and stingy, you can save so easily! You get a student loan but you don't necessarily need to spend it all on online shopping. Your loan is a lovely amount, either way you'll be using it and you'll have to pay it back at least make sure you used it for something that will have a lasting effect on your life and travelling definitely does!

I had a great time as a fresher, I didn't just travel and give up my social life for it, I still had saved enough money for both!

Hope this helped and if you end up using these saving money tips let me know :)




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Tuesday, September 25, 2018

How I felt about my First Event | Becoming a Young Entrepreneur

Hey guys!

As a teenager I always admired celebrities just like everyone else my age but the people I really looked up to were young entrepreneurs. When you're young your 20s sounds like a big age and I have also said to myself one day I want to be able to start up my own small business when I'm in my 20s and here I am. I am 21 now and I have started my own Event Planning and Management business called Beau Chic Events. (@beauchic_events)

It all sounds nice and wonderful, the picture perfect story of a girl who became an entrepreneur at 21. The truth is, you can portray things in any way you want to. On the 21st September I hosted my first ever event in London as part of my company and I must say that project has taught me so much as an entrepreneur. The skills and knowledge I gained from the experience can't be bought. I must say I am very proud of myself looking back at it now. I had to make big and bold decisions and I realised what it is like to be a small start up company and how you will get treated in the world of business. I also learnt a lot about friendships and family. I received a tremendous amount of support. What I learnt the most is that not everyone will be happy for you. Some people will only be there when the grass is green. Those that stuck through all the difficult parts of planning this event have really made me appreciate family and friendship to the extra extent. I was having anxiety attacks, I was nervous and honestly it was heart warming to see how many people actively made the effort to get me through it all.
Everything goes by the statement of "That's how business is". I have a lot to learn but I've started young and I have many years to go. Majority of small start up companies end up failing after their first year and if not they don't survive longer than 3 years. For me this was about experience and gaining skills. I took many risks, had many anxious nights, sleepless days but at the end I just felt happy for myself for who I am now.

I will never stop learning, this is all part of a massive learning curve, I will dare to take many more risks, open to many more positive and negative experiences. The self motivation is there!
I can't wait to continue this journey of my own. I have another goal that I am currently working on but I don't like to jinx my opportunities in life so I'll keep you guys updated on my working progress on that in due time!





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Sunday, July 22, 2018

Simple changes that transform how you look in a Lengha!

Hey guys!

Well if my love for Lengha's isn't apparent by now it should be to you after reading this post. I absolutely adore them for many reasons:
- easy to wear when you're on the go and changing at events
- no pre-pleating or difficult long wearing process like with sarees
- skirts and tops can be easily mixed and matched with other things
- can be perfectly fitted to your sizing
and you just simply will look cute in them, there's no way it can go wrong. I'm gonna struggle to wear anything else but lenghas when I'm in my 40s and probably too old for them oops.

As beautiful as they're you need to do it right! There's things you need to pay attention to when wearing a lengha.

1. The Fitting

The fitting is so so important with lenghas! As easy as it sounds to just buy it and wear it, you shouldn't! Get it perfectly tailored to your body - I mean perfectly! It makes such a difference to how it actually looks on you. Let me show you.











Left - not tailored to my size, just used the ribbon to wear the skirt
Right - after tailoring

Do you see the huge difference it makes?

These pictures were taken with a day apart so now it's not a weight loss picture.
If you don't get it tailored, to make it cling your waist, you will end up looking much broader than you actually are.



Here's another example! I look very out of it this day and tired so ignore my face it had its reasons but look at the waist! such a lovely lengha skirt but I personally think it didn't sit as well as it should've because I was too busy to go to the tailor!

2. The Flow

If it's not fitted to your waist the skirt will simply not flow. It will hang down like in the picture above and not flow like a princess.

I mean look at this picture. It flows perfectly and all I had to do is get the skirt and top tailored. But I think you get the point now...moving on to the next point.


3. Mix and Match

Just because the blouse comes with it doesn't mean you have to wear it. The blouse that came with the pastel pink skirt above wasn't nice at all. I hated it. It was not nicely fitted, the material was weird compared to the skirt. So I went and bought a ready made saree blouse for £20 and got it tailored which made the outfit look the way it did.


Here I am wearing a simple crop top from Boohoo with a lengha skirt! Sometimes simple can actually look soo nice, I find it nice anyway.

Don't be scared to try new combos! They might work out so nicely!

I hope you enjoyed this post and I will be back with more very soon.






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